I'VE always loved writing.

There are many other things I love and give me joy that I’m good at and I suppose that’s one of the biggest reasons they make me so happy. I always loved the idea of writing for a newspaper. How cool would it be to be like Carrie? But without the debt of course!

It all began when I wrote a book. An auto-biographical, humorous book that covers the span of two years at a point when I was struggling as a mum. I had a young boy and a baby.

I knew that this was universal but no one seemed to talk about it, better still, no one highlighted ever, the day to day issues that women, mums, parents and girls face. I’ve always said that being a mum is amazing but the day to day life is mostly torture and it is always upside down and no one tells you about it or prepares you for the reality.

So I wrote into the Mercury and I asked the question followed by a sample of my book. Imagine my absolute delight when the editor loved it. A LIFESTYLE/ENTERTAINMENT column in the newspaper!

To entertain, over a cuppa. Something that some weeks would be heavier than the others but overall, an article to look forward to and is something different. It was a dream come true. I mean, it was one of quite a few dreams but that doesn’t make it any less real.

I was delighted. I absolutely love writing and I loved writing for the Mercury. I have been doing it for almost a year and it’s a little weird but lovely when people talk to me about it in the shop or in the street and say how much they love it and that it evoked a positive emotion.

Of course I never thought many angry and negative people or ‘mature’ and unmodern men would read it, it’s not going to resonate with that audience and of course there would be some people that disagreed with some things I say which makes them human.

Sanity and logic would tell those people not to read it.

I never thought that it would affect people in such a strong negative way where they had to tell someone how much they hate it and argue the fact with other people though. I’m talking about things that don’t matter to them quite obviously and yet every week they click, READ and then still comment.

As an educated, hard working, disciplined woman, if I know that I won’t like something, I won’t do it, I won’t waste my time and I certainly won’t announce it and expect everyone to share my view. It is after all an individual person's view and it is ok to disagree.

If I know something is boring I won’t do it and if I know that there is a nobody writing a weekly entertainment column whose face annoys me and is directed at women and people with a sense of humour or purpose then as one of those groups of people, I would not read it.

I would make the same informed decision to not torture myself every week. Unless I secretly loved it and felt compelled to not just read it but to comment as well. But couldn’t admit openly to liking it so instead had to bully, accuse and argue that it is the worst thing that has ever happened to a small seaside town newspaper.

And so, because it’s obviously a trigger for those types and seems to bring out some really negative emotions, this is my last column for the Mercury. Although I am used to such bile and it doesn’t make a difference to me, my husband and children are not used to it.

My family do not understand how and why people could be so hateful towards something that in the grand scheme of things doesn’t matter. Writing is a passion and dream of mine, so I won’t stop.

I’ll publish my first book and write the second, start a blog and write for a big magazine. This will happen because I manifest success. I’ve known many negative people in my life and I still have the dirt under my fingernails from clawing my way through it.

When I want something I make it happen, instead of using all my energy trying to tear others down. I will do talks in schools and colleges to help support mental health in young people, I will keep feeding the homeless and volunteering at the school.

I will keep raising money for charity and I will keep doing anything and everything that brings me pure happiness, therefore setting a good example for my children. Showing them that love and kindness is the way forward. Helping others is the kindest thing you can do.

Being supportive of your peers and admitting when you’re jealous and learn from it. Learning from everything you do, progressing and growing. The irony though that however many positive comments there always the negative, if we all actually worked together to do something positive then that might actually bring forth a tiny bit of change.

So I say to anyone reading this that comes across negativity and nasty people, they are the ones that spread the ‘be kind’ message because they want the kindness, but don’t plan on giving it to anyone at any point and refuse to see that they are in fact the problem.

Not the ‘immigrants’, not any other issues in the world, but them. There will always be evil and it comes in many shapes and forms but if you’re a negative bully, coward and a twit hiding behind the internet then that’s what you will always be.

I choose to gravitate towards the light in people and surround myself with love and happiness. 

Jolene Wilson, Weston Mum.